Understanding child emotional abuse (2024)

Words can harm - emotional abuse can be just as hurtful as physical abuse and the effects can last a lifetime.

Understanding child emotional abuse (1)

What is emotional abuse?

Emotional abuse happens when a child is repeatedly made to feel worthless, unloved, alone or scared.

  • Also known as psychological or verbal abuse, it is the most common form of child abuse.
  • It can include constant rejection, hostility, teasing, bullying, yelling, criticism and exposure to family violence.
  • The impacts of emotional abuse are just as harmful as physical abuse.

Emotional abuse is particularly damaging to a child’s self-esteem and emotional wellbeing.

Types of emotional abuse

Typically, repeated incidents of abuse build up over time and cause lasting effects upon a child's development and wellbeing. However a single incident can cause serious harm as well.

Some examples of emotional abuse include:

Continually ignoring or rejecting a child

Physically or socially isolating a child

Forcing a child to do things by scaring them

Constantly criticising, humiliating or blaming a child

Constantly swearing, yelling or screaming at a child

Making a child feel different from other family members

Telling a child that they’re worthless, unloved or not enough

Withholding love, support, praise or attention from a child

Bullying, teasing, insulting or belittling a child

Having unrealistic expectations or unreasonable demands of a child

Not allowing a child to explore, express themselves, learn or make friends

Treating a child badly because of things they can’t change (eg. disability, gender, sexuality)

Threatening abuse or threats to harm loved ones or pets

Possible signs of emotional abuse

Signs that a child might be experiencing emotional abuse can include:

  • Avoiding or running away from home
  • Low self-image, self-esteem and confidence
  • Delays in development or decline in school work
  • Often anxious, distressed or afraid of doing something wrong
  • Demanding, disruptive or secretive behaviour
  • Extremes of behaviour – very aggressive to very passive
  • Trying too hard to please or failure to connect with parents
  • Being withdrawn or having difficulty relating to others
  • Feels worthless, unloved or unwanted
  • Increased fear, guilt and self-blame
  • Lying, stealing or lack of trust in adults
  • Self-harming or suicidal thoughts
  • Drug and alcohol use

Impacts of emotional abuse

Children and young people may experience a range of emotional, psychological and physical problems as a result of being harmed, including:

Unhealthy coping strategies or habits (sucking, biting, rocking, self-harm)

Mental health disorders (anxiety, depression, phobias)

Inability to trust or difficulty forming relationships

Destructive, aggressive or anti-social behaviours

Drug and alcohol use

Developmental delays

Sleep or eating disorders

Difficulty expressing themselves

Learning or speech disorders

High-risk sexual behaviour

Behavioural problems or disorders

Difficulty regulating emotions

Physical disorders or health issues

Suicidal thoughts or attempts

Overly adaptive behaviours (eg. very compliant or defensive)

Low confidence, self-esteem or self-worth

Child protection is everyone’s business! Some adults have a legal obligation to notify authorities (these obligations differ between states and territories).

Who else can help?

If you have a reason to suspect a child is experiencing harm, or is at risk of experiencing harm, contact an authority in your State and talk to them about your concerns.

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Encourage the child in your life to contact Kids Helpline if they need some extra support to cope with what has been happening.

You may find talking to somebody outside of the situation helpful. You could try calling Parentline in your state or territory to discuss your concerns.

For some guidance on responding to disclosures of child abuse, see our article on Responding to disclosures of child abuse.

This content was last reviewed 21/04/2023

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Understanding child emotional abuse (2024)

FAQs

What are the 5 signs of emotional abuse in children? ›

Emotional abuse signs and symptoms
  • Delayed or inappropriate emotional development.
  • Loss of self-confidence or self-esteem.
  • Social withdrawal or a loss of interest or enthusiasm.
  • Depression.
  • Avoidance of certain situations, such as refusing to go to school or ride the bus.
  • Appears to desperately seek affection.

What is emotional abuse answer in one sentence? ›

Emotional abuse includes non-physical behaviors that are meant to control, isolate, or frighten you. This may present in romantic relationships as threats, insults, constant monitoring, excessive jealousy, manipulation, humiliation, intimidation, and dismissiveness, among others.

How to heal from childhood emotional abuse? ›

3 steps to help overcome childhood trauma
  1. Recognize the trauma. The adult must acknowledge this certain childhood experience as trauma. ...
  2. Be patient with yourself. Self-criticism and guilt can be very common when it comes to adults who have lived through a traumatic childhood. ...
  3. Reach out for help.
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What are 6 behaviors that indicate emotional abuse? ›

6 Signs of Emotional Abuse
  • Gaslighting. Gaslighting is one of the most insidious signs of emotional abuse. ...
  • Silent Treatment. The silent treatment is used when the victim has done something that upsets the abuser. ...
  • Controlling Behavior. ...
  • Overly Critical. ...
  • Circular Arguments. ...
  • Isolation.

What is the most common form of emotional abuse of children? ›

Also known as psychological or verbal abuse, it is the most common form of child abuse. It can include constant rejection, hostility, teasing, bullying, yelling, criticism and exposure to family violence.

What are the behavioral indicators of emotional abuse? ›

Signs of emotional abuse include: Lack of confidence and self-esteem. Difficulties controlling emotions. Extreme behaviour, like becoming overly demanding, aggressive, having outbursts, or becoming passive.

What are 4 examples of emotional abuse? ›

Types of emotional abuse

humiliating or constantly criticising a child. threatening, shouting at a child or calling them names. making the child the subject of jokes, or using sarcasm to hurt a child. blaming and scapegoating.

Which are the three main warning signs that someone may be an abuser? ›

Red flags and warning signs of an abuser include but are not limited to: Extreme jealousy. Possessiveness. Unpredictability.

What are five emotional effects of abuse on the child? ›

This type of abuse can be extremely destructive and has been associated with a range of adverse child outcomes including emotional maladjustment, depression, poor self-esteem, conduct problems, aggression, inability to trust, and underachievement.

What are 5 possible indications that a child is being abused? ›

Some common signs that there may be something concerning happening in a child's life include:
  • unexplained changes in behaviour or personality.
  • becoming withdrawn.
  • seeming anxious.
  • becoming uncharacteristically aggressive.
  • lacks social skills and has few friends, if any.
  • poor bond or relationship with a parent.

How does an emotionally abused child behave? ›

Effects of emotional abuse

wanting attention or becoming clingy. not caring how they act or what happens to them. trying to make people dislike them. developing risky behaviour, like stealing, bullying or running away.

What signs might you observe that suggest a child is experiencing emotional abuse? ›

Signs of emotional child abuse
  • lack of apparent connection with parents.
  • overly affectionate or clingy with strangers.
  • anxious or extra vigilant disposition.
  • emotional outbursts.
  • problems interacting with other children appropriately.
  • other symptoms of child abuse.

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